It’s Hump Day and time to share another Sexcapade bucket list adventure: Sexting!
Before telling you about our experience with Sexting, I’d like to share a quick observation we’ve noticed since starting the sex bucket list challenge . Since making our way through the activities, there has been an undeniable positive change in our relationship, and this change has been echoed with all of our couples. The general consensus is that everyone is experiencing more good will with their partner, being a bit kinder and more cooperative overall. I’ve noticed that my own husband has been helping more at home without even being asked (!!!!!) and being more thoughtful and sweet, bringing me treats and doing little things to make my day easier.
I suspect this is a natural effect of connecting more often and being more affectionate in general. Whatever it is, it’s definitely a good change from what one of our couples describes as ‘an annoying cycle of being mad at him, not wanting to have sex with him, going longer, being more pissed, etc’. We’ll take it!!
Back to Sexting. This is something that is low cost, easy to do, and a good way to let your partner know you are thinking about them when you aren’t together. Sexting turns up the heat in your relationship by creating a natural build up of sexual energy. Also, as one of our couples pointed out it is great for breaking up the monotony of boring everyday topics that so often make up the core of our communication. As we’ve pointed out before, it’s very common for functional interactions in relationships to crowd out the romantic as relationships mature and lives become more complicated. Sexting is a great way to re-inject some fun.
Overall, Sexting was something that our couples enjoyed and would do again. Interestingly, 3 of 4 couples described the tension between the functional and the sexual in some way–one husband was unable to transition away from functional communication, another felt distracted, and the third describing a welcome break from the normal topics of discussion. So even if it doesn’t feel natural at first, it’s worth giving a try to vary the types of interactions you are having. We think you might be pleasantly surprised with the results. Here is what our couples had to say:
Sexcapade: Sexting
Average rating for Her: 
(3.8 / 5)
Average rating for Him: 
(4.3 / 5)
Total average Rating: 
(4 / 5)
All the Juicy details…
Couple 1: His Rating (4 / 5) Her Rating 
(3 / 5)
I sent him a naughty photo and got a message back with a question about our dog’s medication. What is wrong with my husband? He was definitely in a better mood than normal when he came home though. When I asked him he said he loved it, he was just distracted in the moment.
Couple 2: His Rating 
(5 / 5) Her Rating (5 / 5)
Simply put there is nothing hotter than getting a sexy snap. He prefers a little bit of nudity (not so good on imagination). She likes sending it and loves the positive response. At this rate we need to keep the challenges coming! As for would we do it again, too bad there isn’t a drop-down for “HELL YES”
Couple 3: His Rating (5 / 5) Her Rating (4 / 5)
I wasn’t looking forward to this because it felt unnatural and awkward. I’ve accidentally sent messages to the wrong people in the past (‘I love you’ to a work colleague, so embarrassing) and we both have work phones so I’m always cautious about what I text. At first I thought I’d send a message rather than a photo because I was feeling self conscious, but ended up sending a photo instead. After I sent it, he was home in 20 minutes flat! Funny enough since I wasn’t expecting him home for another 2 hours I had already run to the gym and I got a slew of texts like ‘I’m here, where are you????’ Now I know how to get him home more quickly!
His feedback: It was great. It was a good to change the monotony of the stuff we normally text about, which is kid stuff and what needs to be done. It was a great surprise and made me look forward to coming home.
Couple 4: His Rating (3 / 5) Her Rating (3 / 5)
He got my text while driving home so it was a bit distracting for him, but definitely got things rolling early- we fooled around a tiny bit (Elementary petting hidden under the covers) while putting our daughter to bed which led to great sex right after she was asleep!
Couple 5: His Rating (5 / 5) Her Rating (5 / 5)
Not going to lie I freaking love sexting, how can you not…it’s so fun! He isn’t the most communicative so this generally involves me creating content that I may or may not share depending on how generous I am feeling in any given moment. I do enjoy the process- wearing something sexy, taking a good selfie. It’s fun to see how quick and easy it is to get his attention and I certainly enjoy the shock and speechlessness it’s possible to create. The tension is a good build up if I know I’m going to see him, otherwise I feel it’s not worth the effort as I know he would never follow through with any sort of action over the phone. I’ve had experiences with other partners where it’s super fun from start to finish although of course, always more fun to finish in person….so I do this freely to get some sexual energy going but would only follow through if for some reason seeing him in person wasn’t an option.
His feedback: I will take any opportunity to get hot photos of my wife. I know her phone is filled with material, I’d like her to be more generous with me. This is highly motivating to come back home.
Next week we’re all going to be coming up with our own new sex positions. This one is going to be fun!
